I've struggled over the years embracing this whole shapeless dress trend. I'm not what you would call a "shapely woman". Fashion magazines, in turn, would lead you to believe that I'm the perfect candidate to wear some of fashion's more adventurous shapes. Here's the problem, until recently I had a hard time sacrificing a flattering silhouette for a more fashion forward look. It has never been about how I look to others per-say, but really how I feel in it. And I'll tell you one thing, I feel like a frumpy teenage boy in shapeless trapeze dresses. Or, rather, I felt like I not only lost my shape but, honestly, looked like I was hiding something -- like an early pregnancy or an extra 5 lbs from those amazing La Boulangerie turkey and brie croissants.
Then something changed in me. Call it blogger boredom, call it the confidence of aging, but one day I just stopped caring. I stopped caring if guys checked me on my walk to the coffee shop, I stopped caring if every outfit made my body look the most flattering it could possibly look and most importantly I stopped comparing myself to 22 year old girls. I embraced the fact that I am a fit and fashionable 31 year old woman. Keyword: woman. All of the sudden, I wanted to start dressing like one. Now don't get me wrong, I still work my booty off 5 days a week to successfully rock the cut-off shorts and Brazilian bikini trend but I do have an easier time leaving a bit to the imagination nowadays.
(n) survival juice
It was about this time that my good friend Lisa from The Afternoon Supply decided to swing by with a box of clothes that she wanted to get rid of. And what did I find lying within but dress after shapeless dress. Now, rather than try each one and obsess over how I look in front of my terribly unflattering full length mirror, I simply said "Thank you, love!" and decided to test my newfound self by reaching for a new modest, shapeless, dress every sunny morning and see what happened. I'll tell you one thing, there is nothing date-night feeling about these outfits but on the flip side-- it's been a while since I've received that many compliments from- shockingly enough- both woman and men.
Now how did I pull it off? The honest answer is heels. The extra height made me feel less casual and far less frumpy. Great lingerie didn't hurt, whether you can see it or not, what lay beneath was sexy as hell. It also helped to dress each look up a bit. My advice to you is to find something that always makes you feel sexy or confidant, then partner that with a style you are wary of. Want to shop my look? Fortunately for my bank account yet unfortunate to you all, I got these dresses as hand-me-downs from a friend but I've added my selection of this season's statement dresses for you all to shop below.
The moral of the story?
Fashion isn't just about choosing the most figure flattering shape for your figure or feeling like you are one step closer to looking like a 22 year old supermodel. Fashion is about self-expression, about identity, about taking risks -or not-, fashion is about confidence and whatever fabric gets you there. Happy shopping!